So at the start of this year I decided to make five realistic goals that I wanted to achieve in 2013…
1. Be happy
I often find myself being miserable for no reason at all. This year I’m going to do more things to make me feel happy all the time. I’m going to achieve this by creating myself ‘a jar of happiness’, this will be a glass jar where I will write down one thing every day that has made me laugh or smile, put it in the jar and then on New Years Day 2014 I will open the jar up again and read all my happy memories. I think this will help me to achieve my ‘be happy’ resolution because it will make me find the happy things that happen every day and it will cheer me up when I’m feeling down.
2. Look at the positive sides to things
In 2012 I found that I often focused on the negative comments and negative situations in life. For example last year I dreaded my GCSE exams for the whole year and when they arrived I would focus on failing them or not being able to answer the questions etc but I wouldn’t ever think about whether I’d know all the answers on the paper, or what I’ll do to celebrate passing my exams, or even the fact that when they were over I’d get to celebrate my Prom and look forward to college. Therefore in 2013 i’m going to look at the other side to all the situations I experience and if I hear negative comments, I will think about all the positives and compliments I’ve received and act as though negatives do not exist.
3. Stop worrying about everything
I often find myself worrying about every little tiny thing that is going on in my life, such as a lesson I have tomorrow, or I overthink something so much that it creates a separate situation in my head which makes me dread and worry about it. However, when I do this I’d find that what i’d been worrying about for so long would never actually happened in reality and so i’d been worrying for nothing which is a complete waste of energy. Therefore this year i’m going to think about the good things could happen rather than the bad things and not let my mind get in the way all the time.
4. Say yes
Sometimes I’d take the safer option by staying in rather than going out. However, I often find myself regretting saying no and constantly thinking ‘what if?’. Therefore when I get invited to go somewhere or can’t decide what to do in a situation I’m going to say yes to as many things as I can to prevent myself from questioning ‘what if?’ and enjoy myself rather than sitting in thinking about where I could be all the time.
5. Be myself
I always hold my thoughts back to avoid confrontation or to keep other people happy. However by doing this it just makes a situation get worse and makes me miserable as I’d find myself doing a lot of things for other people and not do the things that I want to do. Therefore this year I’m going to stand up for myself and do whatever I think is right rather than letting people walk all over me knowing that I’d follow. So finally, In 2013 I’ll be myself and do things that make me happy.